Welp. It’s lonely at the top. Lonely at the middle. Lonely at the bottom
Nobody tells you that part. They sell you this dream that if you climb high enough, hustle hard enough, or glow up fast enough, you’ll suddenly be surrounded, celebrated, fulfilled. Wrong.
Here’s the life lesson: it doesn’t matter where you stand if you don’t know how to stand with yourself.
Calling Out the Truth
You can have a crowd, a partner, a crew, and still be lonely. Because loneliness doesn’t come from being without people. It comes from being without you.
And a lot of us don’t even realize how often we abandon ourselves. We say yes to events we don’t care about. We “go with the flow” when the flow isn’t even ours.
We end up the damn Empress Fun Monitor, making sure everyone else is having a blast while we’re low-key bored out of our minds.
That’s when loneliness creeps in. Not because you’re alone, but because you’ve gone missing in your own life.
The Real Cure
The cure isn’t another night out. It isn’t another “girls’ trip.” It’s not finding new people to vibe with.
The cure is saying yes to yourself and hell no to everyone else when it doesn’t fit. It’s reclaiming your own company as premium company. It’s sitting in silence until you remember what actually lights you up.
And here’s the hard pill: that cure feels painful at first. You’ll feel guilty. You’ll feel selfish. But freedom always feels uncomfortable when you’re used to being chained.
What This Means in Real Life
So let’s make it plain:
Stop treating your happiness like a group project.
Stop waiting for someone else to validate your fun.
Stop abandoning yourself just to belong.
Because the longer you ride someone else’s vibe, the lonelier you get. And the moment you flip it, when you finally choose you, that’s when the loneliness starts to fade.
So here’s the question for today: Did you do it?
Did you say yes to yourself?
Did you say no to somebody else’s vibe that never matched yours to begin with?
If not, do it. That’s the real cure.
— KIMMe PROMISEs